You Don’t Need To Say Much – Communication Rules

Relationship Communication by Nathalie HImmelrich www.nathaliehimmelrich.com

Are you truly listening?

Recently when coaching a couple regarding their communication I heard myself comment on their way of engaging with each other when listening and heard myself say: “You don’t need to say much in order for someone to feel really listened to.” Having said that, there are some things you need to do or say, even when you are the listener. Let’s have a closer look at the communication rules of active listening.

Rules for Active Listeners:

  • Maintain contact, depending on cultural traditions this can be eye contact or sitting together
  • Focus on what the other person is saying
  • Make sure you have an open body language or try mirroring the speaker’s body language (without mimicking)
  • Use non-verbal cues (m-hm, ah, OK) to let the other know you are listening
  • Put your agenda, your thoughts, to the side while listening
  • Reflect back to the other person what you think they meant
  • Do not simply rely on your assumption of what you understood, check with the other person

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Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issues of Content

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Are you on the same topic?

The real reason for communication failures are often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article will look at the issues of content.

Content issues:

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Why Your Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner – Issue of Structure

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The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. This article […] Read more »

Why You Are Not Successful in Communicating With Your Partner

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The real reason for communication failures is often the lack of awareness of what is really happening. If you understand what level your challenges truly are and what you are communicating about, whether it is content or structure, you are then able to deal with the real issues. A lot […] Read more »

The Argument Is Never Just About the Issue

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This past week I had an argument with my husband. What was happening between us is what I regularly see happening with my relationship coaching clients. I will use my personal experience to show you what I mean. Present and past issues The present issue was about something I had […] Read more »

Back by Popular Demand: Love Language Part 5 – Physical Touch

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We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Research projects in the area of child development have made that conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical […] Read more »

It Is the Relationship Journey That Counts

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Today in a client’ session I heard myself say: A happy relationship with your partner might be your goal but it is not the purpose of (relationship) life. Let me explain. The journey that counts The famous quote “It’s not the destination but the journey that counts” leaves some questions […] Read more »

Back by Popular Demand: Love Language Part 4 – Acts of Service

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Actions like cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes, vacuuming, taking out the garbage, moving the grass, changing the cat’s litter tray, etc are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort, and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. Within […] Read more »